Most people like to have good feelings about their relationship.  Then, one day, they would like to have more.

More of something…like more attention, more money, more sex, more good home cooking and a clean house, vacations, gifts. I could keep going but you know what I mean.

In order to start having more love in your life, you’ll want to look at these 5 relationship mistakes.

1.) Stop looking at your past relationships unless you’ve previously achieved the ideal relationship.

Your past has no bearing on what you can create today.

If you’ve had good relationships in the past, then look at what was different for you in that relationship. Did you focus on the other person’s needs and wants? Did you feel loved? How did you treat your honey? How did you feel about him/her? In other words, what were you doing different than you are now or could be doing now.

2.) Don’t beat yourself up about the current state of your relationship.

It doesn’t make sense to beat yourself up, feel guilty, or less than. You can’t get on with improving your relationships if you dwell on the negative. Get your mind into the creative space of creating what you want, not settling for what is.

3.) Take your attention off keeping score.

While it may seem that you do all the work keeping your relationship alive and you don’t think the other person is pulling his/her own weight, it’s more important to see each other as people doing the best they can. Make a decision to eliminate this habit and give all your energy to attracting what you want in the relationship. Hint: the blame game does not endear you to anyone.

4.) Let go of wishing for the miracle solution.

Do you notice that the harder you try to hunt down the miracle solution to your problems, you feel even more powerless? Trust that your solution will come once you’ve decided ———————- fill in the blank. .

Remember the times when you hit an all-time low point (in relationships, income, etc.) and you had no clue how you would dig yourself out of the “mess” you’d created. Kinda zaps the creative spirit, doesn’t it?  But once you decided to take the situation back into your control, little by little, solutions revealed themselves.The baby steps you can take now will create an avalanche of good relationships. Some solutions will show up in ways you don’t plan, such as taking care of yourself.

5.) Never sell your soul to have love.

Don’t try to “fix” yourself just to align with someone else. It feels like taking on an extra      job and forcing yourself to go to work. Don’t lower your values out of desperation. These         actions will not get you further ahead in the love game because the energy behind them    is desperation.  Yes, you may need to take some actions to improve yourself such as working on your communication skills, but make sure your heart feels it’s the right decision and you are doing it for you and your partner because you want to, not because you feel you have to.

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